Sitting in Class...

Currently sitting in my religions of the world class and I just heard a paper from a former student whose best friend confessed that her father raped her constantly for ten years since she was 10 years old, multiple times a day while her mother (who knew) turned a blind eye and blamed her when the girl confessed to her. The girl hasn't spoke to her family since she left home for college except once. They went to visit her on her 20th birthday and her father said she should forgive him because he has found God and is a changed man.

The girl said she will never speak to them again and she can never forgive him for taking her innocence and her ability to have children. She also said she does not want to go to heaven. She does not think it is fair that someone who destroyed her constantly for years should be so easily forgiven and accepted into heaven. And she would rather spend eternity in hell than in heaven with the man that destroyed her life.


I understand where the girl is coming from. The Bible teaches that everyone has a chance to find God, repent and change their ways to be accepted into Heaven. Since no one knows what is in Heaven it is entirely possible that if her father change his ways and she continue to live her life right that they may one day meet up in Heaven. How can you spend forever seeing someone that hurt you so? How can you pursuade someone in this situation to feel otherwise? You can't. It's impossible but to hold on to the hate is wrong and she should, for her sake, let it go. I think she should forgive for her inner peace but she does not have to make contact or rebuild bridges. This is a hard thing to reason with but it was really something that made me wonder.